Dylen has started out this month with a "BANG".
Not in a good way as some might think.
Our normally well behaved seven year old has managed to through the entire house into chaos. We had some trouble with him at the beginning of the year with school. He turned it around and did very well in the months to follow.
Then Christmas came along and trough a wrench in the whole thing. He's had some behavior problems at home since then. And now this last week, they have now turned up at school once again. Every day this week it seems like something more is going to hit us in the face.....it's then I realize things aren't as good as I though they were with him.
We have no clue as to what is coming up next.
He has spent three of the last four weeks grounded for one reason or another. It seems like there is no end in sight. We've had to take away all the extra curricular actives, and still there is no improvement. So logically, its not those activities overwhelming him.
He even brought home and 87% in his spelling and reading test this week. Now, don't get me wrong....I in no way am disappointed in this. It just that this is the first since the start of the school year. To me it is also a sign, there is more going on. While we have tried talking to him on numerous occasions, I don't think we have gotten to the route of the problem yet.
He has told us that he misses his Dad, or he is getting picked on at school, school is hard, and many other random reasons. While all these together can be overwhelming, I think we need to delve further into what is the problem truly is. He is shutting down on the teachers at school and not vocalizing his problems, as well. He has started picking on his sister, something not very common for him. At least in the manor we've seen from him lately. It's usually random pranks that get him into trouble when she is involved.
But, he has turned to hitting her and kicking her recently. Which leads me to belive that he truly is being pick on at school. He was sent home with a note this week for fighting with a particular someone whom he's complained about a lot. I did call the teacher and make sure she was aware that this is not the first time Dylen has had problems with this kid.
She said that she has other complaints against this child also. Dylen I guess just decided he had had enough, and took it into his own hands. We've told him that is not the best way to solve this problem. His is aware now that he need's to go to a teacher about this, when and if it happens again. The teacher also made us aware that they play fine together some days and others, the child just takes things to far by either offending the other children or outright hitting them.
This last time, Dylen threw the child to the ground on walked off to sit on the stairs outside his class room. His dad has told him, that if the other kid bothers him to just walk away and sit outside the class room until it's time to go in again. Though this is what he did, it's not what was asked of him by the ladies managing the playground. So, because he didn't do what they asked he was sent home with the note for us to sign before he is allowed to play outside a recess again.
Now we've also asked him to just not play with this child anymore. We can see nothing good coming from the acquaintance. He has many good friends whom he can play and goof off with in his class and that he knows from last years classes. We love all his friends and would prefer him to put his energy's into those relationships.
I also wonder at time's if we have pushed him to hard. But I am a firm believer in structure, it lets the child know what to expect next.
While he has done his chores with out complaint all this time, I see him rushing through them and not paying attention to the quality of work he is doing.
I guess I can only hope that in the following weeks we see an improvement in him. He has consistently gotten 4 (A's) throughout the previous months. The work is similar and not so different that he should be felling overwhelmed.
Not in a good way as some might think.
Our normally well behaved seven year old has managed to through the entire house into chaos. We had some trouble with him at the beginning of the year with school. He turned it around and did very well in the months to follow.
Then Christmas came along and trough a wrench in the whole thing. He's had some behavior problems at home since then. And now this last week, they have now turned up at school once again. Every day this week it seems like something more is going to hit us in the face.....it's then I realize things aren't as good as I though they were with him.
We have no clue as to what is coming up next.
He has spent three of the last four weeks grounded for one reason or another. It seems like there is no end in sight. We've had to take away all the extra curricular actives, and still there is no improvement. So logically, its not those activities overwhelming him.
He even brought home and 87% in his spelling and reading test this week. Now, don't get me wrong....I in no way am disappointed in this. It just that this is the first since the start of the school year. To me it is also a sign, there is more going on. While we have tried talking to him on numerous occasions, I don't think we have gotten to the route of the problem yet.
He has told us that he misses his Dad, or he is getting picked on at school, school is hard, and many other random reasons. While all these together can be overwhelming, I think we need to delve further into what is the problem truly is. He is shutting down on the teachers at school and not vocalizing his problems, as well. He has started picking on his sister, something not very common for him. At least in the manor we've seen from him lately. It's usually random pranks that get him into trouble when she is involved.
But, he has turned to hitting her and kicking her recently. Which leads me to belive that he truly is being pick on at school. He was sent home with a note this week for fighting with a particular someone whom he's complained about a lot. I did call the teacher and make sure she was aware that this is not the first time Dylen has had problems with this kid.
She said that she has other complaints against this child also. Dylen I guess just decided he had had enough, and took it into his own hands. We've told him that is not the best way to solve this problem. His is aware now that he need's to go to a teacher about this, when and if it happens again. The teacher also made us aware that they play fine together some days and others, the child just takes things to far by either offending the other children or outright hitting them.
This last time, Dylen threw the child to the ground on walked off to sit on the stairs outside his class room. His dad has told him, that if the other kid bothers him to just walk away and sit outside the class room until it's time to go in again. Though this is what he did, it's not what was asked of him by the ladies managing the playground. So, because he didn't do what they asked he was sent home with the note for us to sign before he is allowed to play outside a recess again.
Now we've also asked him to just not play with this child anymore. We can see nothing good coming from the acquaintance. He has many good friends whom he can play and goof off with in his class and that he knows from last years classes. We love all his friends and would prefer him to put his energy's into those relationships.
I also wonder at time's if we have pushed him to hard. But I am a firm believer in structure, it lets the child know what to expect next.
While he has done his chores with out complaint all this time, I see him rushing through them and not paying attention to the quality of work he is doing.
I guess I can only hope that in the following weeks we see an improvement in him. He has consistently gotten 4 (A's) throughout the previous months. The work is similar and not so different that he should be felling overwhelmed.
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